Monday, July 13, 2015

What To Say?

Several years ago I was working with a couple who were deciding whether they wanted to continue their marriage or bring it to an end; they chose the latter. Both were concerned about the family gossip. They didn’t want to feed the gossip, so what were they to say?

 I suggested for them to share they were ending their marriage because they were no longer bringing out the best in each other. I also suggested they didn’t need to say any more or less.

Though being human … there are times when we feel we have to explain ourselves, especially to family and friends and sometimes the emotion button is activated.

Have you ever said something in the heat of the moment only wishing you could retrieve it? Saying a little bit and it didn’t seem like it was enough to make sense, so you felt the need to say more and it wasn’t enough either, oh gosh… feeling yourself getting in deeper and deeper?

Being human … some of us have too much time on our hands … and we gossip. Where there is gossip there is drama and nothing good comes from either.

Steering clear of gossip is reflective of personal development/ maturity/ awareness...

Wayne Dyer the “father of motivation” shares when his children would begin to gossip, he wouldn’t participate. He would say since (child’s name) isn’t here to defend themselves I will. That brought a halt to the gossip and drama.

Bringing out the best … is a conscious decision looking beyond our immediate needs and determining that which serves the highest good of all and implementing it.

“When we gain control of our mind, our True Nature automatically shines forth in all its radiance.” –John Welshons, author of  "One Soul, One Love, One Heart"

To your best life!

Tuesday, July 7, 2015

He Who Buries His Head in The Sand is Apt to Get His Butt Kicked

I recently had a conversation with someone who is experiencing turmoil in his life. Having a curious nature about me I asked what kept him in his uncomfortable situation. His response, “It’s comfortable and at least I know what’s going on, if I change I won’t know won’t what to expect.”

We have this fallacy with “being comfortable”. Is it possible being comfortable also equates conditioning? Perhaps being comfortable alters our perception of life.

When …
• Life isn’t working the way we want it, we say, “life sucks!”
• Our health is compromised – we blame it on _____ (kids, work, animals, etc.)
• Relationships aren’t what we expected – it’s the other person’s fault
• Our job isn’t great anymore? – just too much stress …
• Opportunities are passed to the other person – we’re mad

Being comfortable with a menu of knowing what to expect robs us of living our best life.

One thing is certain, when we hangout with this thinking, we find our friends with similar viewpoints – that’s a comforting thought, huh.

Scary as situations can be, by taking baby steps we can move towards a healthier outcome. Taking our head out of the sand offers us new insights. Sometimes it isn't comfortable however without taking a risk there is no glory.

To you living your best life!