Lower back issues have Bryan's attention; doctors say there's not a
reason yet this pain has been around for a long time. In our discussion
Bryan shares about his abduction as a 3-year-old and a father who lied.
There are those times in life when emotionally charged
situations take control and God watch out.
Thoughts run rapid, irrational
behaviors aren't questioned. What to do?
We know what to do!
No need to think this through, no need to slow down and breathe,
no need to reach out and talk this out with someone who is NOT involved for an
objective perspective… No, our need to be right trumps good sense.
We know what to do!
Or so we believe. Until it doesn’t get us the results we’re
Through the Grace of God, something clicks.
When we slow down, breathe, reach out for an objective
perspective, miracles occur.
This you can believe. Wishing you a wonderful day!
Grandmother attempts to overtake her daughter’s authority
trying to teach daughter how to discipline the grandchildren. Daughter says it’s
not happening. Is there more to this story? How do they honor each other and yet remain true to what's best for the grandchildren?
I recently had a conversation with someone who is
experiencing turmoil in his life. Having a curious nature about me I asked what
kept him in his uncomfortable situation. His response, “It’s comfortable and at
least I know what’s going on, if I change I won’t know won’t what to expect.”
We have this fallacy of “being comfortable”.Perhaps the idea of being comfortable alters our perception of life.
·Life isn’t working the way we want it, we say,
·Our health is compromised – we blame it on _____
(kids, work, animals, etc.)
·Relationships aren’t what we expected – it’s the other person’s
isn’t great anymore? – just too much stress …
·Opportunities are passed to the other person – we’re
Being comfortable with a menu of knowing is routine which includes blame, avoiding risk... and like clockwork, our mind reiterates the same thoughts, day after day.
One thing is certain,
when we hangout with this thinking, we find friends with similar viewpoints and miss the opportunity of fresh ideas and the courage to challenge our thoughts.
Scary as situations can be, by taking baby steps we can manage the unexpected; it takes faith, believing in the process and in ourselves. It’s a
The two sides of OCD - I’m referring to my everyday
life and some of the ways I’ve responded.
I have learned the bright side of having OCD; there are many
benefits such as the ability to track conversations, patterns and sequence
(words, people, places and things) and a whole lot more…
Thank goodness for the bright side as the dark side can be
very disturbing. Way back in the day, I was like a magnet noticing everything
wrong; typically I didn’t counter balance the experience with understanding or
compassion. With time and commitment to self-improvement, my internal response
to these different situations has improved… even those times when I see red.
A self-taught artist, my eye for detail is always at the
I used to paint still-life – pretty good at it though I recall
the last still-life painting, I made my life and the lives of my children and
former husband hell; a relentless three days to perfect a bird’s feather was
enough for me to put my paintbrush away for ten years. My perfection obsession
One day at an art fair I was captivated with a whole new painting
expression, it looked fun and I haven’t looked back. I absolutely love my
whimsical painting! It brings me so much joy! Give me furniture, canvas or
fabric and acrylic paint, even wall paint … and I’m in heaven.
My website is another expression of my creativity… when I
hire someone I expect them to be better (as they are the professional/ expert)
or at least as good as me. After several attempts, sometimes seeing red and
sometimes having a meltdown, I surrendered to accepting for the time being my
work would suffice keeping in mind someday that person would appear.
As everything in life, it’s how we respond to any situation.
I believe the more we know about ourselves (and using the information as a tool
of improvement) the better we manage our lives. In fact, even with the
difficulties I continue to move through, I really appreciate the positive benefits
Recently I had a client who came into my office; she sat
down and presented a zip-lock bag including sugar and a lemon. She shared she
wanted to make lemonade and she needed my help.
This sort of presentation was a first for me.
Using her props, here’s thoughts to ponder:
So many times we get stuck with our focus on the sour
experiences of life; what’s one to do?
My client knew sugar would sweeten her response to the
situation however something else was needed.
Makes me think of the times when a situation would come
about where I would eat, drink, shop, (the sugar) to alter my feelings. Sure as
heck, when the vapors of the high diminished, my situation continued to haunt
me; in addition pending what choice I had used to avoid, there might be
additional consequences to address.
As my client presented her situation and listening to her self speaking, this method of
seeking solutions can be helpful; seeking a professional perspective is also
helpful. Journaling is a great tool as is EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique/ aka