Tuesday, December 27, 2011

There are many ways to experience joy...

There are many ways to experience joy … remember a fond memory, something that made you howl, a skill that you are especially proud of.

There are many ways to experience joy … Making a new friend. Being a friend. Teaching ...
There are many ways to experience joy … time with yourself, a pet, a child, another person, singing in the shower, a surprise for someone,  recording a message and sharing it with those you love… walking in nature and counting the variety of leaves, flowers and sounds… Listening to a phenomenal meditation.

There are countless ways to experience joy… 

How do you experience joy?

Wishing you a day of love, laughter and joy!

Saturday, December 24, 2011

’tis the season to be jolly …

 "You are lovable not for what you do. You are lovable for who you are."  - Alan Cohen

Most of us buy into the hype of Christmas one-way or the other. Look at what we (pardon me if you are the exception) do …

A home has more lights on it than Target has had in stock collectively for the past two years.

Many will purchase gifts in hopes of strengthening relationships. They know they'll be loved even more ...

3 trees were needed, one for the expensive designer decorations, another for entertaining and the third for all of the gifts – oops I forgot the small ones in the office, the kitchen, and the bedroom - don't forget the bathroom.

More is better. Spend more money – it’s better. Shut off the responsible switch and go into “Yes, Yes, Yes!” to every imaginable gift – you know they’ll love it. Don’t think about the credit card bill coming in – Bah-humbug! Stay with the bliss of shopping, it’s only once a year! The ether of this shopping is so mesmerizing …

Be Martha Stewart – Do it all!

And .... eventually it all catches up with us …

Like Martha Stewart, we aren't exempt. Lying – to yourself or to others … a disguise will backfire.

For those of you that this is applicable consider changing your approaches this year … give the gift of love by being you – that’s all they really want anyway.


Ponderings ...
© 2004
Glenda Gibbs

Monday, December 19, 2011

Overwhelm to Solution for Christmas Stress!

I’ve always enjoyed Christmas decorations, lights and the hoop-la-la around me. Operative words are “around me”. Year after year I’d make new agreements to do it different, be more prepared and year after year, my stress level would be at an all-time high. I finally found a solution: rather than overwhelming myself with guilt and expectations, spending money already committed, getting stressed and depressed, I tapped. Tapping (Emotional Freedom Technique) has allowed me to release the stress and the underlying behaviors, thoughts and feelings regarding Christmas – thus I’m able to make better decisions, sleep at night and enjoy the Christmas season in a whole new way. 

Ho Ho Ho, who would have known? 

May your day be bright and merry!

Tuesday, December 13, 2011

I thought his name rectified my experience

I don't need a man to rectify my existence. The most profound relationship we'll ever have is the one with ourselves. - Shirley MacLaine

I cringed when someone introduced their partner /husband/wife as their 'other half'.

When I married my ex-husband I became Mrs. Husband's first and last name. It gave me value, an identity. I believed that my husband would give me what I didn't have and his name was one of many ways he rectified my existence. 

Somewhere along the path of life I learned that I wasn't enough and by attaching myself to someone, I would be whole.

Many years later my children's father and I divorced. My other half – the person who rectified my existence was gone and once again, I was without an identity, though not for long.

Another man came into my life, this time a doctor. I remember calling my mother exclaiming how I was in relationship with a doctor. This declaration trumped my typical conversation: my mother was impressed. 

Eventually, the doctor and I went different directions and the day came when realized I was co-dependent.

I went to work on myself and transitioned out of co-dependency to being independent. I didn’t realize one was/is the shadow of the other. Oh gosh. 

Many years later I learned (and continue) to practice being inter-dependent. Learning to love and accept myself as a whole person has been quite the experience.

Yes Shirley, profound.

A happy day to you,