Monday, December 15, 2014

What drives you – criticism or complements?

What drives you – criticism or complements?

We listen to our thoughts all of the time.

Notice your thoughts – if you were to pay real close attention to your thoughts – go ahead and close your eyes, notice your inner dialogue. Are your thoughts supportive and in alignment with your idea of happiness and in pursuit of your goals? Or are they more criticizing and full of judgment? What are you listening to? What drives you – criticism or complements?

Last evening I had the opportunity of teaching a class where I suggested each person scan their thoughts – noticing what they generally listen to and I asked them to share their results. Most reported they listen to the negative.

 And ... there wasn't a one who would be OK with someone else talking to them the way they talk to themselves.

The thoughts we listen to are the thoughts that manifests our reality. 

Imagine your desk is a mess, piled with papers – a bit much huh? With a cleared desk you feel more productive. Use this analogy – close your eyes and gather all your thoughts, putting them in a room and closing the door. (You’ll be able to open the door any time and retrieve any of those thoughts.) The space they once filled is now open. Focus on your breath. Say to yourself ‘focus on my breath’ when the thoughts appear, send them to that room and continue to focus on your breath ... you might even notice the silence, peace, and perhaps a response from God.

Initially, this exercise might seem really difficult and a challenge to experience. Two seconds without the chatter/thoughts going on is a huge accomplishment; with practice it enables you to enjoy this quietness from your thoughts longer. Each day of practice develops an inner strength of power to change your life.
You are the only one who has the power to change your thoughts... may they be ones to move you towards peace, happiness and success!

Ponderings... Food for the Soul (c)

Friday, December 12, 2014


Today is a great day! I’m choosing this belief as the quality of my day depends on what I believe. If I believe it’s a crappy day – throw in the towel because it is… Choice is so incredibly freeing! May your day be filled with bliss! Oh happy day … xx


Fluctuating moods often are indicative of stress.

How we present and interact with others is reflective of the relationship we have with ourselves.

The power we give to these situations and circumstances controls our thoughts, emotions, behaviors and lives.  Consider this …  Imagine your life without these attention grabbers and energy drains…
As the peak of stress builds, likened to an ocean wave ... it has a breaking point. And so do you … 

Managing stress or being controlled by it ... is a choice. 

Tuesday, December 9, 2014

The Magic of “The Secret of Having It All is Loving It All”

“The secret to having it all is loving it all.” - Dr. Joyce Brothers

The magic of “the secret of having it all is loving it all” is forgiveness. 

Forgiveness can be a momentous experience. Not everyone wants to forgive. 

Some believe forgiveness would mean giving permission for the same thing to reoccur. That kind of pain keeps them emotional hostage to their beliefs.  This is prison.

I knew a person who was very bitter. She was this way probably 50 years. She wouldn’t consider forgiving.  She believed that they didn’t deserve it. She held on to those feelings of being wronged to her deathbed.

Her feelings of being wronged were much stronger than ‘loving it all’.  She said it wasn’t in her to forgive. She lived her life with a background of hate, anger and resentment. The quality of her life was severely compromised.

When wronged feelings are held, there are coinciding emotions that have an impact in our daily living, our relationships and mostly our health.

Forgiving is an accumulation of wisdom such as:

  • Forgiveness isn’t for the offender, its for your peace of mind
  • Forgiving doesn’t mean for you to forget
  • Forgiving doesn’t mean that you “free” that person to repeat
  • It means releasing you from the prison of wronged feelings
  • It means the freedom to love
  • It means more energy
  • It means laughing and experiencing life in a new light
If you have the closets of your mind filled with wronged feelings, perhaps you’re ready to make a new choice, experience more energy and have a life – like you’ve wished for and never imagined possible.

Forgiveness is the secret to having it all and loving it all.