Wednesday, January 28, 2015

Ask Questions and Get Answers




Ask Questions and Get Answers



Excellent questions from a variety of ages, topics, and both genders. Listen in as Glenda shares her views. Will you agree or disagree? Let us know your thoughts! 

http://www.unity.fm/program/clarity101








Thursday, January 22, 2015

Old (Lower Back) Pain Surfaces New Insights

 


Lower back issues have Bryan's attention; doctors say there's not a reason yet this pain has been around for a long time. In our discussion Bryan shares about his abduction as a 3-year-old and a father who lied. 

http://www.unity.fm/program/Clarity101

Your thoughts?

Monday, January 19, 2015

Emotionally charged situations - what to do?


There are those times in life when emotionally charged situations take control and God watch out. 

Thoughts run rapid, irrational behaviors aren't questioned. What to do? 


We know what to do! 


No need to think this through, no need to slow down and breathe, no need to reach out and talk this out with someone who is NOT involved for an objective perspective… No, our need to be right trumps good sense.


We know what to do! 


Or so we believe. Until it doesn’t get us the results we’re expecting.


Through the Grace of God, something clicks. 





When we slow down, breathe, reach out for an objective perspective, miracles occur. 


This you can believe. 

Wishing you a wonderful day!

 







Ponderings... Food for the Soul (c)

Thursday, January 15, 2015

"Authority" Issues? Are they petty? What about love?

Grandmother attempts to overtake her daughter’s authority trying to teach daughter how to discipline the grandchildren. Daughter says it’s not happening. Is there more to this story? How do they honor each other and yet remain true to what's best for the grandchildren?
 
 
Wishing you a wonderful day! Thank you for being here!


Saturday, January 10, 2015

He who buries his head in the sand is apt to get his butt kicked...



I recently had a conversation with someone who is experiencing turmoil in his life. Having a curious nature about me I asked what kept him in his uncomfortable situation. His response, “It’s comfortable and at least I know what’s going on, if I change I won’t know won’t what to expect.”


We have this fallacy of “being comfortable”.  Perhaps the idea of being comfortable alters our perception of life. 

When …

  • ·       Life isn’t working the way we want it, we say, “life sucks!”
  • ·       Our health is compromised – we blame it on _____ (kids, work, animals, etc.)
  • ·       Relationships  aren’t what we expected – it’s the other person’s fault
  • ·       Our job isn’t great anymore? – just too much stress …
  • ·       Opportunities are passed to the other person – we’re mad 

      Being comfortable with a menu of knowing is routine which includes blame, avoiding risk... and like clockwork, our mind reiterates the same thoughts, day after day.

One thing is certain, when we hangout with this thinking, we find friends with similar viewpoints and miss the opportunity of fresh ideas and the courage to challenge our thoughts.

Scary as situations can be, by taking baby steps we can manage the unexpected; it takes faith, believing in the process and in ourselves.  It’s a choice.

To you living your best life!









Ponderings... Food for the Soul (c)

Monday, January 5, 2015

OCD Bright & Dark Sides



The two sides of OCD - I’m referring to my everyday life and some of the ways I’ve responded.

I have learned the bright side of having OCD; there are many benefits such as the ability to track conversations, patterns and sequence (words, people, places and things) and a whole lot more… 

Thank goodness for the bright side as the dark side can be very disturbing. Way back in the day, I was like a magnet noticing everything wrong; typically I didn’t counter balance the experience with understanding or compassion. With time and commitment to self-improvement, my internal response to these different situations has improved… even those times when I see red. 

A self-taught artist, my eye for detail is always at the forefront. 

I used to paint still-life – pretty good at it though I recall the last still-life painting, I made my life and the lives of my children and former husband hell; a relentless three days to perfect a bird’s feather was enough for me to put my paintbrush away for ten years. My perfection obsession was neurotic.

One day at an art fair I was captivated with a whole new painting expression, it looked fun and I haven’t looked back. I absolutely love my whimsical painting! It brings me so much joy! Give me furniture, canvas or fabric and acrylic paint, even wall paint … and I’m in heaven. 




 My website is another expression of my creativity… when I hire someone I expect them to be better (as they are the professional/ expert) or at least as good as me. After several attempts, sometimes seeing red and sometimes having a meltdown, I surrendered to accepting for the time being my work would suffice keeping in mind someday that person would appear.
 
As everything in life, it’s how we respond to any situation. I believe the more we know about ourselves (and using the information as a tool of improvement) the better we manage our lives. In fact, even with the difficulties I continue to move through, I really appreciate the positive benefits of  OCD.

Happy day to you!








Ponderings... Food for the Soul (c)

Friday, January 2, 2015

Lemonade? It requires more than lemon & sugar



Recently I had a client who came into my office; she sat down and presented a zip-lock bag including sugar and a lemon. She shared she wanted to make lemonade and she needed my help.




This sort of presentation was a first for me. 

Using her props, here’s thoughts to ponder:

So many times we get stuck with our focus on the sour experiences of life; what’s one to do? 

My client knew sugar would sweeten her response to the situation however something else was needed. 

Makes me think of the times when a situation would come about where I would eat, drink, shop, (the sugar) to alter my feelings. Sure as heck, when the vapors of the high diminished, my situation continued to haunt me; in addition pending what choice I had used to avoid, there might be additional consequences to address. 

As my client presented her situation and listening to her self speaking, this method of seeking solutions can be helpful; seeking a professional perspective is also helpful. Journaling is a great tool as is EFT (Emotional Freedom Technique/ aka Tapping).

What methods do you use to make lemonade? 

May you find sweetness in your day!









Ponderings... Food for the Soul (c) 2015