BEING ONE OF MANY OR MANY OF ONE

At the local duck pond … it’s interesting to watch some of the ducks waddle on over to the edge of the water … getting their feet wet and waiting for someone to throw feed. A flying slice of bread lands, instantly a herd gathers – their jostling all but consumes the person who threw the bread…

Over yonder, there are other ducks turning somersaults and diving for food. It seems they’re familiar with their surroundings and somewhat detached – they’re not waiting or dependent on someone to feed them.

Those ducks looking for a free handout will starve without someone feeding them … some how they didn’t get the feel good feeling of taking care of themselves.

I wonder how this might be a metaphor for those of us who believe we need to ‘fix’ someone’s life? I wonder how we cripple them into smallness rather than supporting them in their greatness.

To you living your best life!
-Glenda

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Author's Bio
Glenda is passionate about leaving the world a better place, people feeling better about themselves and the power of positive thinking. She loves to share her wisdom and experiences as an integrative coach/counselor, facilitator and writer. If she can be of service to you or you know someone who would benefit, please contact Glenda at 509.585.9683 or email her at glenda@glendagibbs.com

He who buries his head in the sand is apt to get his butt kicked

I recently had a conversation with someone who is experiencing turmoil in his life. Having a curious nature about me I asked what kept him in his uncomfortable situation. His response, “It’s comfortable and at least I know what’s going on, if I change I won’t know won’t what to expect.”

We have this fallacy with “being comfortable”. Is it possible that being comfortable also equates conditioning? Perhaps being comfortable alters our perception of life.

When …
• Life isn’t working the way we want it, we say, “life sucks!”
• Our health is compromised – we blame it on _____ (kids, work, animals, etc.)
• Relationships aren’t what we expected – it’s the other person’s fault
• Our job isn’t great anymore? – just too much stress …
• Opportunities are passed to the other person – we’re mad

Being comfortable with a menu of knowing what to expect robs us of living our best life.

One thing is certain, when we hangout with this thinking, we find our friends with similar viewpoints – that’s a comforting thought, huh.

Scary as situations can be, by taking baby steps we can outgrow our myopic beliefs.

It’s a choice.

To you living your best life!
-Glenda

© Copyrighted 1998 – 2009 by Glenda Gibbs. Feel free to share... The content may be forwarded in full, with copyright/contact/creation information intact.

Author's Bio
Glenda is passionate about leaving the world a better place, people feeling better about themselves and the power of positive thinking. She loves to share her wisdom and experiences as an integrative coach/counselor, facilitator and writer. If she can be of service to you or you know someone who would benefit, please contact Glenda at 509.585.9683 or email her at glenda@glendagibbs.com

To you … a ‘special’ person on Valentine’s Day

To you … a ‘special’ person on Valentine’s Day …

I’m all about enjoying life and feeling good - especially on Valentine’s Day.

Used to be I didn’t care for Valentine’s Day, it was sort of depressing … a really long time since I’d had a special someone to share Valentine’s Day with – so, I decided to change my experience.

Knowing how good it feels to be a recipient, I began sharing with others in an email, card, phone call, or a gift; it’s been so much fun!

May your day be filled with expressions of love.

xoxoxo
Happy Valentine’s Day!
-Glenda


© Copyrighted 1998 – 2009 by Glenda Gibbs. Feel free to share... The content may be forwarded in full, with copyright/contact/creation information intact.



Author's Bio
Glenda is passionate about leaving the world a better place, people feeling better about themselves and the power of positive thinking. She loves to share her wisdom and experiences as an integrative coach/counselor, facilitator and writer. If she can be of service to you or you know someone who would benefit, please contact Glenda at 509.585.9683 or email her at glenda@glendagibbs.com

I'm here for you ...

A member wrote wanting to connect ... I responded. My response is for the woman to reconnect with herself and her God/Source first. Read along ... and by all means leave your comments. - Happy day!

Hello,
It's been a long time since I've written anyone on Eons. I've relocated and been so busy and yes, disoriented, that I've not been keeping in touch with anyone. Since moving, I've been so off spiritually and need to reconnect. -Anonymous

Hello,
Sounds like a time to sit down, grab something to drink and write yourself a letter - you know like you would to an old friend that you've been out of touch with ... let her know how busy and disoriented you've been and how you've missed her and you're here now for her ... maybe even include ways that you intend to spend time with her ... maybe even a funny story or two. When you're complete - don't forget to say I love you prior to signing it... and put it in an envelope and place it where you can read it often - maybe at your bedside.

Welcome back and do stay in touch.

Happy day to you!
Glenda

If you could have just one wish … what would it be?

If you could have just one wish … what would it be?

A woman replied, “I want to be self confident.”

She continues sharing, “I’m good at conversation, making people feel comfortable and accepted. Excellent mom and I have a quick dry sense of humor and a wonderful energy within me that sometimes shines. I’m not sure where my talent lies; I’m very drawn to the artistic side of things since a small child (left-handed Gemini raised in a house full of right-handed, sensible thinkers who were very not into anything dramatic or artistic really), I’m not excellent at any one thing and not sure that there is a natural born talent there, although I wish there was.”

My response:

So what if you continued to improve/excel with the things that you enjoy and that you're already 'drawn' to - such as the artistic side of things, good conversation, making people feel comfortable/accepted...

We’re on the same page – business isn't my strength either and thank god for online banking and others who have good business savvy and skills.

I too, am very strong with the artistic side, have the ability to make people feel comfortable and relaxed ... after trying for years of being what I thought everybody else wanted – to fit in – I realized when it came to the end of the day - I was exhausted trying to be everything to everyone

The people came and went but what about me?

It took me many years to realize my self care was paramount.

Being different is a good thing!

Once I grasped being different is a good thing I got to work developing the areas that I was already good at. The more I trusted this process, the more I found where I fit in life. More doors of opportunity opened – Abundance!

Interestingly enough … being playful and allowing that 'wonderful energy' to shine felt so good, I can’t imagine life without it.

Wishing you a great day!
-Glenda

Living Life or Waiting to Die?

An anonymous member writes: I am going to give (name deleted) your phone number - it's her turn to take care of herself.

… when we have done everything we know (and God knows we give it everything) … except permission … permission to believe it’s okay to move away from chaos and into taking charge of our lives.

All the while we’re moving through life we get tired… we want better. Our radar is searching for a fix –self-medicating with food, alcohol, drugs, sex, work – you get the idea… anything to reduce the anxiety… should we move in closer to examining our thoughts and behaviors the anxiety increases.

Living Life or Waiting to Die?

Freedom begins with believing there really is a better way

Freedom occurs when we move up the ladder for guidance

Freedom is realizing that a problem can’t be solved with the same thoughts and behaviors causing it

Freedom occurs as we invite a professional who is objective and who shares our blind spots with us

Freedom occurs as we let go of self- recrimination

Freedom occurs when we let go of blaming others

Freedom occurs as we examine and challenge our thinking and our patterns

Freedom occurs when we give ourselves permission to really believe that we have the ability to change

Freedom occurs as we realize most of our thoughts are a composite of the past and we can change those causing us resistance

Freedom occurs when we realize we’re human and making mistakes is okay

Freedom occurs when we realize mistakes allow us the opportunity to improve

Freedom occurs when we learn to say no and set boundaries

Freedom occurs when a person changes their mind – they respond with a choice that works for them rather than in opposition

Freedom occurs when we don’t take ourselves so seriously, we can play and have fun!

Freedom is a choice …

Living life is a choice too…


May you make a choice that you can live with.


-Glenda


Live with passion… Be Healthy, Wealthy and Happy

If you don't have the richly rewarding relationships you desire… the intimate, empowering partnerships you deserve… and the satisfying, successful career that provides the money, freedom, fulfillment and fun you dream of… it's because of your beliefs. Change your beliefs, change your life.