I recently had a conversation with someone who is experiencing turmoil in his life. Having a curious nature about me, I asked what kept him in his uncomfortable situation. His response, “It’s comfortable and at least I know what’s going on, if I change I won’t know won’t what to expect.”
We have this fallacy with “being comfortable”. Is it possible that being comfortable also equates conditioning? Perhaps being comfortable alters our perception of life.
• Life isn’t working the way we want it, we say, “life sucks!”
• Our health is compromised – we blame it on _____ (kids, work, animals, etc.)
• Relationships aren’t what we expected – it’s the other person’s fault
• Our job isn’t great anymore? – just too much stress …
• Opportunities are passed to the other person – we’re mad
Being comfortable with a menu of knowing what to expect robs us of living our best life.
One thing is certain, when we hangout with this thinking, we find our friends with similar viewpoints – that’s a comforting thought, huh.
Scary as situations can be, closing the door to the self-talk, we CAN outgrow a-head-in-the-sand-approach to life ... reach up and reach out. Offer a helping hand, in turn someone will be there to offer you the same. The first step is the most difficult ... you're worth it!
To you living your best life!
Original 2009. This article has been revised.