In any moment of decision, the best thing you can do is the right thing. The worst thing you can do is nothing. -Theodore Roosevelt
Doing the right thing...
A young man has been dating a woman for a while. They enjoy each other's company and seem to be a good match. Until now. He has anxiety … He draws from his past experiences and fast-forwards them into the future. Without thinking he changes out the characters and inserts the new woman. And then he bombards himself with “WHAT IF…”
This kind of thinking is consuming and an energy drain.
The 'voice of fear' had him convinced he was doing the right thing… and doing nothing had him starting to freeze. Without intervention a phobia could have developed; doing nothing would have reinforced his beliefs, causing him to stick with what he believed to be true.
He couldn’t see how he was going to stay in this relationship yet he knew this relationship was incredible. He asked for help. We were able to elicit the roots of his fears. A very empowering moment occurred when he discovered he could master his thoughts by choosing to listen to the healthy thoughts and ignore or better yet – fire those that instigated fear.
(The acronym for FEAR is false evidence appearing real.)
Doing the right thing is subjective. If you’ve done your best and you find yourself with a pattern, situation after situation with the same results, it’s time to reach out for someone who is objective and not a part of the situation to assist you. With clarity, often a whole new world opens to new thoughts, new choices, and new responses.
Wishing you much success!